POWERLESS. WHO ME?

POWERLESS. WHO ME?

I’ve got a friend going for wedding #3 tomorrow, I’m best(questionable) man, and pre-wedding golf game. Thus an early post!

It’s been a day to really think about powerlessness.

Years ago, I came to realize that I was powerless over my addictions, and my addictions had made my life unmanageable. Unmanageable to a point where I was miserable; and I was losing relationships that were near and dear to me, including my relationship with myself

Early in my journey to a better life, I could accept this.

Today, I had an opportunity to reflect on a few things. I must constantly remember that I am powerless over people, places and things. Something bigger than me is in control of the big picture. Because I have the gift of free will, I do have a large amount of power over my own actions. That’s it.

I spent great quality time with a dear friend today (we played golf). He’s got a family situation, involving the actions of an older brother, which has my friend and some other family members in a real tizzy. The situation doesn’t look pretty, but if there is any wrong doing, it was not my friend or other family members that did anything, it was an individual. I’ve learned the hard way, I am powerless over the actions of others and they can certainly make my life unmanageable. The best thing I can do for those I love is just “BE” there for them. Can you relate?

Funny how much golf and sports are like life.

I played a match against another dear friend today. I was certainly powerless over the wind, how my friend played, how the ball bounced, etc. I did have some ability to determine how I play. I was amazed at the results I got by just being there in the match, and doing the best I could with my own ball.

How many try to control the people, places and things around them to no avail? How many feel that they do wonderful things for others, but are never truly recognized? How many take responsibility for everyone around them, but will not be responsible for themselves? How many have the courage to admit that they are powerless over most things in their external life, and when they try to control them they lose hope and serenity, and ultimately their own lives become unmanageable?

A few people read the events of my journey of recovery.

I hope that a few take the time to ponder honestly some of the questions. I coach and mentor people to find answers within themselves, and am blessed that I had great people in my life who coached me to be the best I can today.

So, what are you powerless over? Worth thinking about.