2012-Mission to Improve Self-esteem
To be of service to others, I do a lot of reading and research. Original thinking is fine but what I know and coach originated from others.
The biggest issues I help others to come to grips with are related to self-esteem. Today I share writing from Francine Ward, a lady I wish I had as a coaching client!
“Self-esteem comes from honouring your healing journey
My life is not perfect. I make a lot of mistakes. Sometimes, I stumble and fall. I am a work in progress. And when I remember that simple fact, I am better for the experience.
It's easy to start on a path of change and get so busy doing what we need to do that we forget to stop, breathe, and acknowledge the effort we've already made. We forget to honour our own healing journey. There are times when I have to be reminded to do for myself what I do for others. The other day, a friend caught me denigrating the work I put into a project because it wasn't done perfectly. When she asked how it was coming along, I said, "I can't seem to get it down perfectly. It's horrible." I then spent ten minutes - which was as long as she could tolerate my ranting - downplaying the work I had put into the project so far. She couldn't believe she was listening to me. "You could be one of your own clients," she said. And how right she was. I needed to be coached at that moment in time. And after our conversation, I called my coach.
Healing is hard work. It takes great effort to stay on a path that leads to purposeful self-discovery. It takes energy - persistent energy - to be an active participant in the creation of our lives. A healing path requires having the courage to shine a light or allow a light to shine on parts of ourselves that we'd rather keep private. It means having the courage to see the work that still needs to be done. Honouring our healing journey invites us to appreciate the effort that has been made.
It's important to heal and to honour the work done.”
What a great message, a message from someone who truly understands the path to achieving healthy self-esteem and one who appreciates the important role a coach plays.
Want to achieve more in your life in 2012 and live the life you were meant to? Get over your scepticism and give coaching a try! Contact me without obligation!
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Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
सबोतागिंग SELF
SABOTAGING SELF?
How are you sabotaging yourself?
"If you play it safe in life you've decided that you don't want to grow any more." --
Shirley Hufstedler
How are you sabotaging you’re potential for change?
We unconsciously use defense mechanisms to shield us from situations we perceive to be scary or painful. A part of you may want to grow and change, but another part may be resisting because change always moves you into new territory in your thinking and emotions.
If you find you are getting anxious, fearful, angry, frustrated, dismissive or unmotivated, then defense mechanisms are at work. Watch for them and know them to be signs of fear that wants to hold you back. Then courageously move through them.
"I have never been contained except I made the prison." -- Mary Evans
Once again, my mentor Dr. Randin Brons shares a very thought provoking article in his weekly Idea Engineer. Please give the question some thought.
In my daily work (and volunteer life) I come across so many people who self sabotage, and it is obvious that they are doing it.
They identify a problem that is really negatively impacting their lives and state they would like to solve it and move forward.
A path to achieving their goal is outlined and then the excuses for not taking action start. “I can’t afford it”, “I already know what the problem is”, “I haven’t got time”, “I can fix it myself”, “I have a friend that….” or even an honest “I’m afraid of what I might find”.
You’re reading this article for a reason. Many of you have a good idea that you are sabotaging your own happiness and know you must make change. Why let fear- however it manifests itself- hold you back?
While I do coach people to achieve the changes that want, I am also prepared, as a service, to spend time with people who just want to discuss life change, transformation and recovery. Where you go from that chat is up to you. Do you not deserve, as a priority, the life you are capable of living? Have courage!
How are you sabotaging your life?
(www.hopeserenity.ca or khbray@hopeserenity.ca)
How are you sabotaging yourself?
"If you play it safe in life you've decided that you don't want to grow any more." --
Shirley Hufstedler
How are you sabotaging you’re potential for change?
We unconsciously use defense mechanisms to shield us from situations we perceive to be scary or painful. A part of you may want to grow and change, but another part may be resisting because change always moves you into new territory in your thinking and emotions.
If you find you are getting anxious, fearful, angry, frustrated, dismissive or unmotivated, then defense mechanisms are at work. Watch for them and know them to be signs of fear that wants to hold you back. Then courageously move through them.
"I have never been contained except I made the prison." -- Mary Evans
Once again, my mentor Dr. Randin Brons shares a very thought provoking article in his weekly Idea Engineer. Please give the question some thought.
In my daily work (and volunteer life) I come across so many people who self sabotage, and it is obvious that they are doing it.
They identify a problem that is really negatively impacting their lives and state they would like to solve it and move forward.
A path to achieving their goal is outlined and then the excuses for not taking action start. “I can’t afford it”, “I already know what the problem is”, “I haven’t got time”, “I can fix it myself”, “I have a friend that….” or even an honest “I’m afraid of what I might find”.
You’re reading this article for a reason. Many of you have a good idea that you are sabotaging your own happiness and know you must make change. Why let fear- however it manifests itself- hold you back?
While I do coach people to achieve the changes that want, I am also prepared, as a service, to spend time with people who just want to discuss life change, transformation and recovery. Where you go from that chat is up to you. Do you not deserve, as a priority, the life you are capable of living? Have courage!
How are you sabotaging your life?
(www.hopeserenity.ca or khbray@hopeserenity.ca)
Thursday, December 9, 2010
सित्तिंग इन JUDGEMENT
SITTING IN JUDGEMENT
No judgment
Everything in life holds both a blessing and a curse. We deny this when we label the events of our lives as either good or bad. The following old Zen story illustrates this lesson most effectively.
A farmer had a horse but one day, the horse ran away and so the farmer and his son had to plow their fields themselves. Their neighbors said, "Oh, what bad luck that your horse ran away!" But the farmer replied, "Bad luck, good luck, who knows?"
The next week, the horse returned to the farm, bringing a herd of wild horses with him. "What wonderful luck!" cried the neighbors, but the farmer responded, "Good luck, bad luck, who knows?"
Then, the farmer's son was thrown as he tried to ride one of the wild horses, and he broke his leg. "Ah, such bad luck," sympathized the neighbors. Once again, the farmer responded, "Bad luck, good luck, who knows?"
A short time later, the ruler of the country recruited all young men to join his army for battle. The son, with his broken leg, was left at home. "What good luck that your son was not forced into battle!" celebrated the neighbors. And the farmer remarked, "Good luck, bad luck, who knows?"
"Do not judge and you will never be mistaken." -- Jean Jacques Rousseau
I am a man who judged very quickly over a large portion of my life. I have been coached to do otherwise. My mind has gone from much closed to mostly open; real progress! Being far less judgmental has also helped me in all my relationships and is critical as a life coach (www.hopeserenity.ca).
I thank my mentor Dr. Randin Brons for this share in his Idea Engineer.
No judgment
Everything in life holds both a blessing and a curse. We deny this when we label the events of our lives as either good or bad. The following old Zen story illustrates this lesson most effectively.
A farmer had a horse but one day, the horse ran away and so the farmer and his son had to plow their fields themselves. Their neighbors said, "Oh, what bad luck that your horse ran away!" But the farmer replied, "Bad luck, good luck, who knows?"
The next week, the horse returned to the farm, bringing a herd of wild horses with him. "What wonderful luck!" cried the neighbors, but the farmer responded, "Good luck, bad luck, who knows?"
Then, the farmer's son was thrown as he tried to ride one of the wild horses, and he broke his leg. "Ah, such bad luck," sympathized the neighbors. Once again, the farmer responded, "Bad luck, good luck, who knows?"
A short time later, the ruler of the country recruited all young men to join his army for battle. The son, with his broken leg, was left at home. "What good luck that your son was not forced into battle!" celebrated the neighbors. And the farmer remarked, "Good luck, bad luck, who knows?"
"Do not judge and you will never be mistaken." -- Jean Jacques Rousseau
I am a man who judged very quickly over a large portion of my life. I have been coached to do otherwise. My mind has gone from much closed to mostly open; real progress! Being far less judgmental has also helped me in all my relationships and is critical as a life coach (www.hopeserenity.ca).
I thank my mentor Dr. Randin Brons for this share in his Idea Engineer.
Monday, December 6, 2010
चसिंग हप्पिनेस?
CHASING HAPPINESS?
“One is happy as a result of one's own efforts, once one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness — simple tastes, a certain degree of courage, self denial to a point, love of work, and, above all, a clear conscience. Happiness is no vague dream, of that I now feel certain.”-George Sand-19th Century female French novelist
I came upon a part of this George Sand quote in one of my daily readings and in exploring who George Sand was, came upon the whole quote.
It certainly gave me a jolt to think and ponder; after all, do most of us not spend our lives chasing “HAPPINESS”?
Happiness is not an accident. If we learn how to truly look for it, we will find it within. It’s the how to find it that is a problem to many.
Inside of us is a small quiet voice, a part of us that we often learn to ignore. Whether we like it or not OR vehemently deny it, there is a spiritual component that is part of each of us. A part of that element is love-for self and others.
This voice, when heard, speaks of care and loving. It will never tell us to hurt ourselves or others. It is, in part, a higher power that dwells within, a higher power we can call love.
There is a skill that I had to learn to locate and have conscious contact with this voice within. It was not easily learned; I had to be coached through the process until it became a regular part of a new balanced approach to daily living. The happiness I’ve gained is a result of my own efforts and to reach that state of having a clear conscience. As Sands says, happiness is no vague dream; it is part of my life today. Happiness has not been an accident but a discovery by choice.
So are you chasing happiness in all the wrong places and have no real idea of what it feels like and where to find it? You DO have the key within.
Happiness is not an accident. It comes from finding the undeniable spiritual (not religious) voice. I’m truly glad to have found it. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Another Sands quote to close:
“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.”
George Sand
“One is happy as a result of one's own efforts, once one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness — simple tastes, a certain degree of courage, self denial to a point, love of work, and, above all, a clear conscience. Happiness is no vague dream, of that I now feel certain.”-George Sand-19th Century female French novelist
I came upon a part of this George Sand quote in one of my daily readings and in exploring who George Sand was, came upon the whole quote.
It certainly gave me a jolt to think and ponder; after all, do most of us not spend our lives chasing “HAPPINESS”?
Happiness is not an accident. If we learn how to truly look for it, we will find it within. It’s the how to find it that is a problem to many.
Inside of us is a small quiet voice, a part of us that we often learn to ignore. Whether we like it or not OR vehemently deny it, there is a spiritual component that is part of each of us. A part of that element is love-for self and others.
This voice, when heard, speaks of care and loving. It will never tell us to hurt ourselves or others. It is, in part, a higher power that dwells within, a higher power we can call love.
There is a skill that I had to learn to locate and have conscious contact with this voice within. It was not easily learned; I had to be coached through the process until it became a regular part of a new balanced approach to daily living. The happiness I’ve gained is a result of my own efforts and to reach that state of having a clear conscience. As Sands says, happiness is no vague dream; it is part of my life today. Happiness has not been an accident but a discovery by choice.
So are you chasing happiness in all the wrong places and have no real idea of what it feels like and where to find it? You DO have the key within.
Happiness is not an accident. It comes from finding the undeniable spiritual (not religious) voice. I’m truly glad to have found it. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Another Sands quote to close:
“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.”
George Sand
Monday, November 8, 2010
यू'रे बेत्टर थान यू थिंक!
YOU’RE BETTER THAN YOU THINK!
How many of us have truly healthy self-esteem (not big egos) and appreciate how good we really are?
Not many, most of us underestimate our real potential.
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
We are wonderful, capable human beings worthy of love and happiness. We all have a gift to give the world that can't be duplicated. No one else is exactly like us; we are each unique. Hard to believe?
The problem is, we don't believe it. Most of us are used to thinking about all our negative qualities and become expert at putting ourselves down. We have a hard time believing and accepting our own goodness and gifts. Think about how you respond when given a compliment!
When we have a negative attitude, only one person can change it - us. We have the power to choose to change our thinking - if we want to. It takes a courageous person to risk getting positive and hopeful.
I had to reach out and get coaching help to make the changes I needed to make in my life and in my case this meant giving up chemical and behavioural addictions. It was tough, but then life is tough! It has been with it.
Today I can appreciate my goodness and accept love humbly. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
How many of us have truly healthy self-esteem (not big egos) and appreciate how good we really are?
Not many, most of us underestimate our real potential.
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
We are wonderful, capable human beings worthy of love and happiness. We all have a gift to give the world that can't be duplicated. No one else is exactly like us; we are each unique. Hard to believe?
The problem is, we don't believe it. Most of us are used to thinking about all our negative qualities and become expert at putting ourselves down. We have a hard time believing and accepting our own goodness and gifts. Think about how you respond when given a compliment!
When we have a negative attitude, only one person can change it - us. We have the power to choose to change our thinking - if we want to. It takes a courageous person to risk getting positive and hopeful.
I had to reach out and get coaching help to make the changes I needed to make in my life and in my case this meant giving up chemical and behavioural addictions. It was tough, but then life is tough! It has been with it.
Today I can appreciate my goodness and accept love humbly. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
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