POWERLESS. WHO ME?

POWERLESS. WHO ME?

I’ve got a friend going for wedding #3 tomorrow, I’m best(questionable) man, and pre-wedding golf game. Thus an early post!

It’s been a day to really think about powerlessness.

Years ago, I came to realize that I was powerless over my addictions, and my addictions had made my life unmanageable. Unmanageable to a point where I was miserable; and I was losing relationships that were near and dear to me, including my relationship with myself

Early in my journey to a better life, I could accept this.

Today, I had an opportunity to reflect on a few things. I must constantly remember that I am powerless over people, places and things. Something bigger than me is in control of the big picture. Because I have the gift of free will, I do have a large amount of power over my own actions. That’s it.

I spent great quality time with a dear friend today (we played golf). He’s got a family situation, involving the actions of an older brother, which has my friend and some other family members in a real tizzy. The situation doesn’t look pretty, but if there is any wrong doing, it was not my friend or other family members that did anything, it was an individual. I’ve learned the hard way, I am powerless over the actions of others and they can certainly make my life unmanageable. The best thing I can do for those I love is just “BE” there for them. Can you relate?

Funny how much golf and sports are like life.

I played a match against another dear friend today. I was certainly powerless over the wind, how my friend played, how the ball bounced, etc. I did have some ability to determine how I play. I was amazed at the results I got by just being there in the match, and doing the best I could with my own ball.

How many try to control the people, places and things around them to no avail? How many feel that they do wonderful things for others, but are never truly recognized? How many take responsibility for everyone around them, but will not be responsible for themselves? How many have the courage to admit that they are powerless over most things in their external life, and when they try to control them they lose hope and serenity, and ultimately their own lives become unmanageable?

A few people read the events of my journey of recovery.

I hope that a few take the time to ponder honestly some of the questions. I coach and mentor people to find answers within themselves, and am blessed that I had great people in my life who coached me to be the best I can today.

So, what are you powerless over? Worth thinking about.

Do You Do Nothing Enough?

Do You Do Nothing Enough?

I go crazy when I do nothing for extended periods of time. It can wear very thin. Very often, life is just the opposite, I do not have the time to just do nothing, and nothing can be therapeutic.

Can you relate?

Back in the “old” days being hyper active all the time, meetings, social engagements, work, etc. was a way to escape real life. I left no time to deepen my self- perception.

Most people I know have had a successful life. For me, I have not accomplished every goal I’ve set, but I am satisfied with what I have accomplished thus far in my life. Are you the same?

I have come to realize that there was a “divine plan” at work in my life, and things, good and bad, happened for a reason. My higher power has always trusted me with the gift of free will. I have not always used the gift wisely.

For a thousand reasons there are many running around constantly, never giving themselves the gift of a “time out” from life. They are trapped. And I’m always conscious that there are 1 out of 10 people out there trapped in an addiction. Actively addicted people cannot stand to look inside themselves, and when alone, feel very lonely.

Can anyone relate?

Life balance is extremely important. Taking time for you and giving yourself praise and healthy rewards is a part of good daily living. In my past, I had totally neglected this, and paid the price. To say I was tired, irritable and discontent would have been very true, and I did become sick and tired of being sick and tired. I knew what I did and what roles I was supposed to play; I had no idea of who I was inside. I became spiritually bankrupt.

Life today is more hectic than ever. Life/work balance for many is tilt, and feeling “purpose” to life is diminishing. Technology, which was supposed to make our lives easier, has made living more complex and created "24/7" people. Years ago, I had no idea what "24/7" meant.

Not good, no one is that important.

Are you searching for life balance? Do you know what it feels like? Is your spiritual life totally on the back burner? Is self-esteem slipping?

And back to the question, “Do You Do Nothing Enough?’ And if not, why not?

Think this over and share!!