WHO’S BEHIND YOUR SUCCESS?
Behind an able man there are always other able men.
--Chinese proverb
The similarities between this and the saying “Behind every good man is a good woman” are striking. How many say “I am self-made”? No one succeeds alone.
Most of us have had a strong desire in our lives to "do it ourselves." We have had the idea that strength and independence meant we should not rely on or receive help from others.
Ah yes, big boys (and girls) don’t cry, and to ask for help to many is a show of weakness and a skill never learned. I know because I was there.
Asking for help was a learned skill in the journey of life recovery and my transformation as a person. Accepting help may have even been more difficult.
Today I understand that throughout my whole life, I have had help available but have not known how to accept it.
From other people-yes. But all the time there was a power greater than me helping. Without it, I certainly would have been dead.
Over the journey I have become much stronger. Daily I seek help, and on some occasions even listen and act. Progress as they say, not perfection.
I am able to share this new found strength with others, and in doing so continue to get stronger inside.
To my US friends, remember-behind an able person are other able people. As you celebrate Thanksgiving, give thanks to the able people that have been with you and be open to those that will come!
Monday, November 29, 2010
WHO'S BEHIND YOUR SUCCESS?
WHO'S BEHIND YOUR SUCCESS?
WHO’S BEHIND YOUR SUCCESS?
Behind an able man there are always other able men.
--Chinese proverb
The similarities between this and the saying “Behind every good man is a good woman” are striking. How many say “I am self-made”? No one succeeds alone.
Most of us have had a strong desire in our lives to "do it ourselves." We have had the idea that strength and independence meant we should not rely on or receive help from others.
Ah yes, big boys (and girls) don’t cry, and to ask for help to many is a show of weakness and a skill never learned. I know because I was there.
Asking for help was a learned skill in the journey of life recovery and my transformation as a person. Accepting help may have even been more difficult.
Today I understand that throughout my whole life, I have had help available but have not known how to accept it.
From other people-yes. But all the time there was a power greater than me helping. Without it, I certainly would have been dead.
Over the journey I have become much stronger. Daily I seek help, and on some occasions even listen and act. Progress as they say, not perfection.
I am able to share this new found strength with others, and in doing so continue to get stronger inside.
To my US friends, remember-behind an able person are other able people. As you celebrate Thanksgiving, give thanks to the able people that have been with you and be open to those that will come!
WHO’S BEHIND YOUR SUCCESS?
Behind an able man there are always other able men.
--Chinese proverb
The similarities between this and the saying “Behind every good man is a good woman” are striking. How many say “I am self-made”? No one succeeds alone.
Most of us have had a strong desire in our lives to "do it ourselves." We have had the idea that strength and independence meant we should not rely on or receive help from others.
Ah yes, big boys (and girls) don’t cry, and to ask for help to many is a show of weakness and a skill never learned. I know because I was there.
Asking for help was a learned skill in the journey of life recovery and my transformation as a person. Accepting help may have even been more difficult.
Today I understand that throughout my whole life, I have had help available but have not known how to accept it.
From other people-yes. But all the time there was a power greater than me helping. Without it, I certainly would have been dead.
Over the journey I have become much stronger. Daily I seek help, and on some occasions even listen and act. Progress as they say, not perfection.
I am able to share this new found strength with others, and in doing so continue to get stronger inside.
To my US friends, remember-behind an able person are other able people. As you celebrate Thanksgiving, give thanks to the able people that have been with you and be open to those that will come!
Friday, November 26, 2010
तिगेर गेट्स होनेस्त!
TIGER GETS HONEST
“At first I didn’t want to look inward. Frankly, I was scared of what I would find—what I had become. But I am grateful I did examine my life because it made me more grounded than I’ve ever been; I hope that with reflection will come wisdom.” –Tiger Woods
This is the first indication that I’ve had that Tiger Woods is starting to “get it”. He must have been working with more than a swing coach!
I am a certified golf nut and a real fan of Tiger’s. I’ve never paid much attention to his life style (other than commitment to fitness and practise) and can honestly say Tiger’s endorsements never influenced me to buy a product.
I never condoned his rants on the golf course nor do I condone (although I unfortunately can relate) what we learned a year ago about his lifestyle.
I admired the total focus Tiger had in competition; his ability to block things out. I admired his technique, his goal setting and his understanding of history. Mostly, I admired his results. Results achieved through coaching and hard work. A commitment to be the best he could be.
I was very surprised when the sordid details of his personal life hit the news a year ago. I did not respect the man who acted this way, but today I respect that Tiger appears to have the courage to make changes in his life. The above quote from today’s paper indicates a maturing of his outlook and some real personal growth.
I would have loved to had the opportunity to work with Tiger as a client; I did relate to things that were going on with him and had to face similar, though far less public, issues and have done so.
How many of us want to look inward? How many are truly scared about what they may find?
Yet you can look inward and address what you find before your life is in total shambles. How much are you prepared to lose?
I hope that the above quote from Tiger is an honest expression of where he is at and honestly reflects a major shift in thinking and that his future actions demonstrate this.
I hope with this new found wisdom comes a return of the talent I love to see Tiger demonstrate on the golf course and I pray he can be a solid father to his children. (www.hopeserenity.ca).
“At first I didn’t want to look inward. Frankly, I was scared of what I would find—what I had become. But I am grateful I did examine my life because it made me more grounded than I’ve ever been; I hope that with reflection will come wisdom.” –Tiger Woods
This is the first indication that I’ve had that Tiger Woods is starting to “get it”. He must have been working with more than a swing coach!
I am a certified golf nut and a real fan of Tiger’s. I’ve never paid much attention to his life style (other than commitment to fitness and practise) and can honestly say Tiger’s endorsements never influenced me to buy a product.
I never condoned his rants on the golf course nor do I condone (although I unfortunately can relate) what we learned a year ago about his lifestyle.
I admired the total focus Tiger had in competition; his ability to block things out. I admired his technique, his goal setting and his understanding of history. Mostly, I admired his results. Results achieved through coaching and hard work. A commitment to be the best he could be.
I was very surprised when the sordid details of his personal life hit the news a year ago. I did not respect the man who acted this way, but today I respect that Tiger appears to have the courage to make changes in his life. The above quote from today’s paper indicates a maturing of his outlook and some real personal growth.
I would have loved to had the opportunity to work with Tiger as a client; I did relate to things that were going on with him and had to face similar, though far less public, issues and have done so.
How many of us want to look inward? How many are truly scared about what they may find?
Yet you can look inward and address what you find before your life is in total shambles. How much are you prepared to lose?
I hope that the above quote from Tiger is an honest expression of where he is at and honestly reflects a major shift in thinking and that his future actions demonstrate this.
I hope with this new found wisdom comes a return of the talent I love to see Tiger demonstrate on the golf course and I pray he can be a solid father to his children. (www.hopeserenity.ca).
TIGER GETS HONEST
TIGER GETS HONEST
TIGER GETS HONEST
“At first I didn’t want to look inward. Frankly, I was scared of what I would find—what I had become. But I am grateful I did examine my life because it made me more grounded than I’ve ever been; I hope that with reflection will come wisdom.” –Tiger Woods
This is the first indication that I’ve had that Tiger Woods is starting to “get it”. He must have been working with more than a swing coach!
I am a certified golf nut and a real fan of Tiger’s. I’ve never paid much attention to his life style (other than commitment to fitness and practise) and can honestly say Tiger’s endorsements never influenced me to buy a product.
I never condoned his rants on the golf course nor do I condone (although I unfortunately can relate) what we learned a year ago about his lifestyle.
I admired the total focus Tiger had in competition; his ability to block things out. I admired his technique, his goal setting and his understanding of history. Mostly, I admired his results. Results achieved through coaching and hard work. A commitment to be the best he could be.
I was very surprised when the sordid details of his personal life hit the news a year ago. I did not respect the man who acted this way, but today I respect that Tiger appears to have the courage to make changes in his life. The above quote from today’s paper indicates a maturing of his outlook and some real personal growth.
I would have loved to had the opportunity to work with Tiger as a client; I did relate to things that were going on with him and had to face similar, though far less public, issues and have done so.
How many of us want to look inward? How many are truly scared about what they may find?
Yet you can look inward and address what you find before your life is in total shambles. How much are you prepared to lose?
I hope that the above quote from Tiger is an honest expression of where he is at and honestly reflects a major shift in thinking and that his future actions demonstrate this.
I hope with this new found wisdom comes a return of the talent I love to see Tiger demonstrate on the golf course and I pray he can be a solid father to his children. (www.hopeserenity.ca).
TIGER GETS HONEST
“At first I didn’t want to look inward. Frankly, I was scared of what I would find—what I had become. But I am grateful I did examine my life because it made me more grounded than I’ve ever been; I hope that with reflection will come wisdom.” –Tiger Woods
This is the first indication that I’ve had that Tiger Woods is starting to “get it”. He must have been working with more than a swing coach!
I am a certified golf nut and a real fan of Tiger’s. I’ve never paid much attention to his life style (other than commitment to fitness and practise) and can honestly say Tiger’s endorsements never influenced me to buy a product.
I never condoned his rants on the golf course nor do I condone (although I unfortunately can relate) what we learned a year ago about his lifestyle.
I admired the total focus Tiger had in competition; his ability to block things out. I admired his technique, his goal setting and his understanding of history. Mostly, I admired his results. Results achieved through coaching and hard work. A commitment to be the best he could be.
I was very surprised when the sordid details of his personal life hit the news a year ago. I did not respect the man who acted this way, but today I respect that Tiger appears to have the courage to make changes in his life. The above quote from today’s paper indicates a maturing of his outlook and some real personal growth.
I would have loved to had the opportunity to work with Tiger as a client; I did relate to things that were going on with him and had to face similar, though far less public, issues and have done so.
How many of us want to look inward? How many are truly scared about what they may find?
Yet you can look inward and address what you find before your life is in total shambles. How much are you prepared to lose?
I hope that the above quote from Tiger is an honest expression of where he is at and honestly reflects a major shift in thinking and that his future actions demonstrate this.
I hope with this new found wisdom comes a return of the talent I love to see Tiger demonstrate on the golf course and I pray he can be a solid father to his children. (www.hopeserenity.ca).
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
वही इ दोन'टी सीक हेल्प-थे EXCUSES
WHY I DON’T SEEK HELP-THE EXCUSES
My good friend Patrick Meninga from Spiritual River has just done another detailed article on why so many walk around with the mental illness of addiction and don’t seek help.
For those who have at any time thought they MIGHT have a problem, or for those who suspect or know someone in their life has a problem, please go to www.hopeserenity.ca, or follow the link to Spiritual River, and read the article in detail.
Up front and from experience, most people with a problem are in DENIAL and/or think they can fix themselves. Trying to fix YOU is like having a clueless idiot for a client, and a proven fact, those who even think they have a problem generally do. A vast majority of people on this earth do not wander around wondering if they have a problem!
Taking action and doing something about YOUR problem is a challenge. Have you got the courage to change and transform and recover your life? The option, early death and injury to others are not a good one.
So read on. I have done some very minor editing to Patrick’s article.
Convincing Yourself to Get Help – Overcoming 12 Common Excuses for Not Seeking Addiction Help
My good friend Patrick Meninga from Spiritual River has just done another detailed article on why so many walk around with the mental illness of addiction and don’t seek help.
For those who have at any time thought they MIGHT have a problem, or for those who suspect or know someone in their life has a problem, please go to www.hopeserenity.ca, or follow the link to Spiritual River, and read the article in detail.
Up front and from experience, most people with a problem are in DENIAL and/or think they can fix themselves. Trying to fix YOU is like having a clueless idiot for a client, and a proven fact, those who even think they have a problem generally do. A vast majority of people on this earth do not wander around wondering if they have a problem!
Taking action and doing something about YOUR problem is a challenge. Have you got the courage to change and transform and recover your life? The option, early death and injury to others are not a good one.
So read on. I have done some very minor editing to Patrick’s article.
Convincing Yourself to Get Help – Overcoming 12 Common Excuses for Not Seeking Addiction Help
WHY I DON'T SEEK HELP-THE EXCUSES
WHY I DON'T SEEK HELP-THE EXCUSES
WHY I DON’T SEEK HELP-THE EXCUSES
My good friend Patrick Meninga from Spiritual River has just done another detailed article on why so many walk around with the mental illness of addiction and don’t seek help.
For those who have at any time thought they MIGHT have a problem, or for those who suspect or know someone in their life has a problem, please go to www.hopeserenity.ca, or follow the link to Spiritual River, and read the article in detail.
Up front and from experience, most people with a problem are in DENIAL and/or think they can fix themselves. Trying to fix YOU is like having a clueless idiot for a client, and a proven fact, those who even think they have a problem generally do. A vast majority of people on this earth do not wander around wondering if they have a problem!
Taking action and doing something about YOUR problem is a challenge. Have you got the courage to change and transform and recover your life? The option, early death and injury to others are not a good one.
So read on. I have done some very minor editing to Patrick’s article.
Convincing Yourself to Get Help – Overcoming 12 Common Excuses for Not Seeking Addiction Help
WHY I DON’T SEEK HELP-THE EXCUSES
My good friend Patrick Meninga from Spiritual River has just done another detailed article on why so many walk around with the mental illness of addiction and don’t seek help.
For those who have at any time thought they MIGHT have a problem, or for those who suspect or know someone in their life has a problem, please go to www.hopeserenity.ca, or follow the link to Spiritual River, and read the article in detail.
Up front and from experience, most people with a problem are in DENIAL and/or think they can fix themselves. Trying to fix YOU is like having a clueless idiot for a client, and a proven fact, those who even think they have a problem generally do. A vast majority of people on this earth do not wander around wondering if they have a problem!
Taking action and doing something about YOUR problem is a challenge. Have you got the courage to change and transform and recover your life? The option, early death and injury to others are not a good one.
So read on. I have done some very minor editing to Patrick’s article.
Convincing Yourself to Get Help – Overcoming 12 Common Excuses for Not Seeking Addiction Help
Monday, November 22, 2010
गोत ट्रस्ट इस्सुएस?
TRUST ISSUES?
It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues.
The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships.
If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” are the primary contributors to your “trust issues”, we should (www.hopeserenity.ca) talk! We can offer some suggestions that will help you deal with these issues.
Enjoy the information and I hope you find it helpful!
How to Solve Trust
Issues in a Relationship
How to Solve Trust Issues in a Relationship
At some point or another, you're likely to experience trust issues in your relationship.
Whether it's brought about by infidelity, a decrease in your own self esteem, your partner's
newly hired young assistant, or a simple change in your partner's behavior, your
relationship can weather this storm and rise above feelings of uncertainty.
Follow these tips to solve the trust issues you face so you can experience the
thriving relationship you deserve:
1. Work on your self-esteem. Many trust issues in relationships that were once thriving
stem from personal insecurities. If you've experienced significant changes in your
appearance or noticed a drop in your self-esteem, it's important to build up your
body image and self worth in order to rebuild the trust in your relationship.
• It's common to become suspicious of the company that your significant other is
keeping when your self-esteem plummets. The way you perceive yourself may be the
only thing in your relationship that has changed.
2. Reflect on your past. Did something happen in your childhood that has caused you
to become wary of trusting your heart to anyone? Did your parents choose to divorce
when you were young? Were you sexually abused in the past?
• These things and more can be responsible for your inability to trust others. When
you've endured emotional trauma, especially during your youth, its effects
can last decades. Speak to a therapist to help you find the root of the issue and learn
how to work past the event.
3. Talk about any indiscretions. If there has been infidelity within your relationship,
it's vital to hash out all hurt feelings and future expectations.
1
• If you've cheated, it's normal for your partner to act clingy for a while. They'll
want to know where you are, what you're doing, and what time you'll be home. They'll
ask if you'll be alone with anyone. Answer their questions truthfully and understand
that they are hurting.
4. Recommit yourself to one another. Sometimes a relationship needs a sign of
recommitment and devotion. Do something special together that signifies that your
love can and will overcome anything.
• If you're married, renew your vows to make it known that your love is abundant
and can rise over any obstacles that life may throw your way.
• If you're dating, go away on a relaxing day trip together and write a letter to each other
exclaiming your love and devotion.
5. Spend more time together. Both you and your partner are constantly changing
internally and your needs and wants are also subject to change. Ensure that
you're truly there alongside your partner to witness and be a part of those changes by
devoting more time to one another.
Trust is about more than believing that your partner will remain faithful. It's
about trusting that your partner will always be there for you in times of need, while also
being a prominent part of the most important events in your life. Work on your trust as
romantic partners - and as best friends - to truly guarantee a fruitful union.
2
It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues.
The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships.
If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” are the primary contributors to your “trust issues”, we should (www.hopeserenity.ca) talk! We can offer some suggestions that will help you deal with these issues.
Enjoy the information and I hope you find it helpful!
How to Solve Trust
Issues in a Relationship
How to Solve Trust Issues in a Relationship
At some point or another, you're likely to experience trust issues in your relationship.
Whether it's brought about by infidelity, a decrease in your own self esteem, your partner's
newly hired young assistant, or a simple change in your partner's behavior, your
relationship can weather this storm and rise above feelings of uncertainty.
Follow these tips to solve the trust issues you face so you can experience the
thriving relationship you deserve:
1. Work on your self-esteem. Many trust issues in relationships that were once thriving
stem from personal insecurities. If you've experienced significant changes in your
appearance or noticed a drop in your self-esteem, it's important to build up your
body image and self worth in order to rebuild the trust in your relationship.
• It's common to become suspicious of the company that your significant other is
keeping when your self-esteem plummets. The way you perceive yourself may be the
only thing in your relationship that has changed.
2. Reflect on your past. Did something happen in your childhood that has caused you
to become wary of trusting your heart to anyone? Did your parents choose to divorce
when you were young? Were you sexually abused in the past?
• These things and more can be responsible for your inability to trust others. When
you've endured emotional trauma, especially during your youth, its effects
can last decades. Speak to a therapist to help you find the root of the issue and learn
how to work past the event.
3. Talk about any indiscretions. If there has been infidelity within your relationship,
it's vital to hash out all hurt feelings and future expectations.
1
• If you've cheated, it's normal for your partner to act clingy for a while. They'll
want to know where you are, what you're doing, and what time you'll be home. They'll
ask if you'll be alone with anyone. Answer their questions truthfully and understand
that they are hurting.
4. Recommit yourself to one another. Sometimes a relationship needs a sign of
recommitment and devotion. Do something special together that signifies that your
love can and will overcome anything.
• If you're married, renew your vows to make it known that your love is abundant
and can rise over any obstacles that life may throw your way.
• If you're dating, go away on a relaxing day trip together and write a letter to each other
exclaiming your love and devotion.
5. Spend more time together. Both you and your partner are constantly changing
internally and your needs and wants are also subject to change. Ensure that
you're truly there alongside your partner to witness and be a part of those changes by
devoting more time to one another.
Trust is about more than believing that your partner will remain faithful. It's
about trusting that your partner will always be there for you in times of need, while also
being a prominent part of the most important events in your life. Work on your trust as
romantic partners - and as best friends - to truly guarantee a fruitful union.
2
GOT TRUST ISSUES?
GOT TRUST ISSUES?
TRUST ISSUES?
It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues.
The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships.
If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” are the primary contributors to your “trust issues”, we should (www.hopeserenity.ca) talk! We can offer some suggestions that will help you deal with these issues.
Enjoy the information and I hope you find it helpful!
How to Solve Trust
Issues in a Relationship
How to Solve Trust Issues in a Relationship
At some point or another, you're likely to experience trust issues in your relationship.
Whether it's brought about by infidelity, a decrease in your own self esteem, your partner's
newly hired young assistant, or a simple change in your partner's behavior, your
relationship can weather this storm and rise above feelings of uncertainty.
Follow these tips to solve the trust issues you face so you can experience the
thriving relationship you deserve:
1. Work on your self-esteem. Many trust issues in relationships that were once thriving
stem from personal insecurities. If you've experienced significant changes in your
appearance or noticed a drop in your self-esteem, it's important to build up your
body image and self worth in order to rebuild the trust in your relationship.
• It's common to become suspicious of the company that your significant other is
keeping when your self-esteem plummets. The way you perceive yourself may be the
only thing in your relationship that has changed.
2. Reflect on your past. Did something happen in your childhood that has caused you
to become wary of trusting your heart to anyone? Did your parents choose to divorce
when you were young? Were you sexually abused in the past?
• These things and more can be responsible for your inability to trust others. When
you've endured emotional trauma, especially during your youth, its effects
can last decades. Speak to a therapist to help you find the root of the issue and learn
how to work past the event.
3. Talk about any indiscretions. If there has been infidelity within your relationship,
it's vital to hash out all hurt feelings and future expectations.
1
• If you've cheated, it's normal for your partner to act clingy for a while. They'll
want to know where you are, what you're doing, and what time you'll be home. They'll
ask if you'll be alone with anyone. Answer their questions truthfully and understand
that they are hurting.
4. Recommit yourself to one another. Sometimes a relationship needs a sign of
recommitment and devotion. Do something special together that signifies that your
love can and will overcome anything.
• If you're married, renew your vows to make it known that your love is abundant
and can rise over any obstacles that life may throw your way.
• If you're dating, go away on a relaxing day trip together and write a letter to each other
exclaiming your love and devotion.
5. Spend more time together. Both you and your partner are constantly changing
internally and your needs and wants are also subject to change. Ensure that
you're truly there alongside your partner to witness and be a part of those changes by
devoting more time to one another.
Trust is about more than believing that your partner will remain faithful. It's
about trusting that your partner will always be there for you in times of need, while also
being a prominent part of the most important events in your life. Work on your trust as
romantic partners - and as best friends - to truly guarantee a fruitful union.
2
TRUST ISSUES?
It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues.
The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships.
If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” are the primary contributors to your “trust issues”, we should (www.hopeserenity.ca) talk! We can offer some suggestions that will help you deal with these issues.
Enjoy the information and I hope you find it helpful!
How to Solve Trust
Issues in a Relationship
How to Solve Trust Issues in a Relationship
At some point or another, you're likely to experience trust issues in your relationship.
Whether it's brought about by infidelity, a decrease in your own self esteem, your partner's
newly hired young assistant, or a simple change in your partner's behavior, your
relationship can weather this storm and rise above feelings of uncertainty.
Follow these tips to solve the trust issues you face so you can experience the
thriving relationship you deserve:
1. Work on your self-esteem. Many trust issues in relationships that were once thriving
stem from personal insecurities. If you've experienced significant changes in your
appearance or noticed a drop in your self-esteem, it's important to build up your
body image and self worth in order to rebuild the trust in your relationship.
• It's common to become suspicious of the company that your significant other is
keeping when your self-esteem plummets. The way you perceive yourself may be the
only thing in your relationship that has changed.
2. Reflect on your past. Did something happen in your childhood that has caused you
to become wary of trusting your heart to anyone? Did your parents choose to divorce
when you were young? Were you sexually abused in the past?
• These things and more can be responsible for your inability to trust others. When
you've endured emotional trauma, especially during your youth, its effects
can last decades. Speak to a therapist to help you find the root of the issue and learn
how to work past the event.
3. Talk about any indiscretions. If there has been infidelity within your relationship,
it's vital to hash out all hurt feelings and future expectations.
1
• If you've cheated, it's normal for your partner to act clingy for a while. They'll
want to know where you are, what you're doing, and what time you'll be home. They'll
ask if you'll be alone with anyone. Answer their questions truthfully and understand
that they are hurting.
4. Recommit yourself to one another. Sometimes a relationship needs a sign of
recommitment and devotion. Do something special together that signifies that your
love can and will overcome anything.
• If you're married, renew your vows to make it known that your love is abundant
and can rise over any obstacles that life may throw your way.
• If you're dating, go away on a relaxing day trip together and write a letter to each other
exclaiming your love and devotion.
5. Spend more time together. Both you and your partner are constantly changing
internally and your needs and wants are also subject to change. Ensure that
you're truly there alongside your partner to witness and be a part of those changes by
devoting more time to one another.
Trust is about more than believing that your partner will remain faithful. It's
about trusting that your partner will always be there for you in times of need, while also
being a prominent part of the most important events in your life. Work on your trust as
romantic partners - and as best friends - to truly guarantee a fruitful union.
2
Thursday, November 18, 2010
वहत ऍम इ थिंकिंग?
WHAT AM I THINKING?
"I never know what I think about something until I read what I've written on it." -- William Faulkner
Years ago I was in a treatment facility trying to learn how to live life on life’s terms. To say my mind was a super speedway would have been an understatement. Disjointed thoughts continually raced around.
What was I really thinking?
I was introduced to the concept of journaling. I must admit, initially, it struck me as silly. Isn’t this what girls do when they keep a diary?
With time, I came to accept the value of journaling. I do it frequently for myself, and it is a part of the daily balance routine I try to instil in my clients and others I work with. (Free balance check list available through www.hopeserenity.ca). Journaling, simply put, allows me to get what’s going on in the inside to the outside, and as Faulkner’s quote says, once on the outside I can begin to realise what I really think (and feel).
I have kept journals going back some 16 years, and it is interesting to go make and read past journals to appreciate the growth curve I have gone through.
Today, a lot of my journaling is done on the computer, and I still find it extremely therapeutic. My mind can still be a speedway, and journaling does allow me to sit a write on various thoughts, read, and reflect on what my thoughts really are. In my journals, I try to capture words that truly express hoe I “feel” about various things.
No longer do I look at journaling as something girls do while young, I find it an essential part of daily living and a record of growth!
Today, I have a good tool in my living kit to help me understand what I am thinking.
"When you choose to understand [and] exercise control over the functions and attributes of your own mind, you will be empowered to create your own reality, to be completely self-reliant and totally prosperous." -- The Delfin Knowledge System
"I never know what I think about something until I read what I've written on it." -- William Faulkner
Years ago I was in a treatment facility trying to learn how to live life on life’s terms. To say my mind was a super speedway would have been an understatement. Disjointed thoughts continually raced around.
What was I really thinking?
I was introduced to the concept of journaling. I must admit, initially, it struck me as silly. Isn’t this what girls do when they keep a diary?
With time, I came to accept the value of journaling. I do it frequently for myself, and it is a part of the daily balance routine I try to instil in my clients and others I work with. (Free balance check list available through www.hopeserenity.ca). Journaling, simply put, allows me to get what’s going on in the inside to the outside, and as Faulkner’s quote says, once on the outside I can begin to realise what I really think (and feel).
I have kept journals going back some 16 years, and it is interesting to go make and read past journals to appreciate the growth curve I have gone through.
Today, a lot of my journaling is done on the computer, and I still find it extremely therapeutic. My mind can still be a speedway, and journaling does allow me to sit a write on various thoughts, read, and reflect on what my thoughts really are. In my journals, I try to capture words that truly express hoe I “feel” about various things.
No longer do I look at journaling as something girls do while young, I find it an essential part of daily living and a record of growth!
Today, I have a good tool in my living kit to help me understand what I am thinking.
"When you choose to understand [and] exercise control over the functions and attributes of your own mind, you will be empowered to create your own reality, to be completely self-reliant and totally prosperous." -- The Delfin Knowledge System
WHAT AM I THINKING?
WHAT AM I THINKING?
WHAT AM I THINKING?
"I never know what I think about something until I read what I've written on it." -- William Faulkner
Years ago I was in a treatment facility trying to learn how to live life on life’s terms. To say my mind was a super speedway would have been an understatement. Disjointed thoughts continually raced around.
What was I really thinking?
I was introduced to the concept of journaling. I must admit, initially, it struck me as silly. Isn’t this what girls do when they keep a diary?
With time, I came to accept the value of journaling. I do it frequently for myself, and it is a part of the daily balance routine I try to instil in my clients and others I work with. (Free balance check list available through www.hopeserenity.ca). Journaling, simply put, allows me to get what’s going on in the inside to the outside, and as Faulkner’s quote says, once on the outside I can begin to realise what I really think (and feel).
I have kept journals going back some 16 years, and it is interesting to go make and read past journals to appreciate the growth curve I have gone through.
Today, a lot of my journaling is done on the computer, and I still find it extremely therapeutic. My mind can still be a speedway, and journaling does allow me to sit a write on various thoughts, read, and reflect on what my thoughts really are. In my journals, I try to capture words that truly express hoe I “feel” about various things.
No longer do I look at journaling as something girls do while young, I find it an essential part of daily living and a record of growth!
Today, I have a good tool in my living kit to help me understand what I am thinking.
"When you choose to understand [and] exercise control over the functions and attributes of your own mind, you will be empowered to create your own reality, to be completely self-reliant and totally prosperous." -- The Delfin Knowledge System
WHAT AM I THINKING?
"I never know what I think about something until I read what I've written on it." -- William Faulkner
Years ago I was in a treatment facility trying to learn how to live life on life’s terms. To say my mind was a super speedway would have been an understatement. Disjointed thoughts continually raced around.
What was I really thinking?
I was introduced to the concept of journaling. I must admit, initially, it struck me as silly. Isn’t this what girls do when they keep a diary?
With time, I came to accept the value of journaling. I do it frequently for myself, and it is a part of the daily balance routine I try to instil in my clients and others I work with. (Free balance check list available through www.hopeserenity.ca). Journaling, simply put, allows me to get what’s going on in the inside to the outside, and as Faulkner’s quote says, once on the outside I can begin to realise what I really think (and feel).
I have kept journals going back some 16 years, and it is interesting to go make and read past journals to appreciate the growth curve I have gone through.
Today, a lot of my journaling is done on the computer, and I still find it extremely therapeutic. My mind can still be a speedway, and journaling does allow me to sit a write on various thoughts, read, and reflect on what my thoughts really are. In my journals, I try to capture words that truly express hoe I “feel” about various things.
No longer do I look at journaling as something girls do while young, I find it an essential part of daily living and a record of growth!
Today, I have a good tool in my living kit to help me understand what I am thinking.
"When you choose to understand [and] exercise control over the functions and attributes of your own mind, you will be empowered to create your own reality, to be completely self-reliant and totally prosperous." -- The Delfin Knowledge System
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
दो यू ओवन यौर लाइफ?
Do you own your life?
"The meaning of life is to give life meaning." -- Ken Hudgins
When we own our lives, we accept what we've inherited and the experiences we hold in our memories. We also claim our right to create new conditions if we're not happy with what's come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives.
Do you feel that you own your life at the moment?
"I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself... and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part." -- Shirley MacLaine
What a great piece from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons in this week’s “Idea Engineer”. Really makes one think.
Today I can honestly answer the question in the affirmative, but that happened through a learning curve directed/coached by professionals like Randin, and is the very reason I am comfortable today working with others.
It is far easier to coach/guide people on a path that you have walked and continue the happy trudge that is life!
If you have concerns that you may not own your life at the moment, I am free to have a discussion with. I have got special talents and skills and love the journey. It’s great to have a life that has meaning.(www.hopeserenity.ca )
"The meaning of life is to give life meaning." -- Ken Hudgins
When we own our lives, we accept what we've inherited and the experiences we hold in our memories. We also claim our right to create new conditions if we're not happy with what's come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives.
Do you feel that you own your life at the moment?
"I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself... and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part." -- Shirley MacLaine
What a great piece from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons in this week’s “Idea Engineer”. Really makes one think.
Today I can honestly answer the question in the affirmative, but that happened through a learning curve directed/coached by professionals like Randin, and is the very reason I am comfortable today working with others.
It is far easier to coach/guide people on a path that you have walked and continue the happy trudge that is life!
If you have concerns that you may not own your life at the moment, I am free to have a discussion with. I have got special talents and skills and love the journey. It’s great to have a life that has meaning.(www.hopeserenity.ca )
DO YOU OWN YOUR LIFE?
DO YOU OWN YOUR LIFE?
Do you own your life?
"The meaning of life is to give life meaning." -- Ken Hudgins
When we own our lives, we accept what we've inherited and the experiences we hold in our memories. We also claim our right to create new conditions if we're not happy with what's come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives.
Do you feel that you own your life at the moment?
"I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself... and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part." -- Shirley MacLaine
What a great piece from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons in this week’s “Idea Engineer”. Really makes one think.
Today I can honestly answer the question in the affirmative, but that happened through a learning curve directed/coached by professionals like Randin, and is the very reason I am comfortable today working with others.
It is far easier to coach/guide people on a path that you have walked and continue the happy trudge that is life!
If you have concerns that you may not own your life at the moment, I am free to have a discussion with. I have got special talents and skills and love the journey. It’s great to have a life that has meaning.(www.hopeserenity.ca )
Do you own your life?
"The meaning of life is to give life meaning." -- Ken Hudgins
When we own our lives, we accept what we've inherited and the experiences we hold in our memories. We also claim our right to create new conditions if we're not happy with what's come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives.
Do you feel that you own your life at the moment?
"I think of life itself now as a wonderful play that I've written for myself... and so my purpose is to have the utmost fun playing my part." -- Shirley MacLaine
What a great piece from my coaching mentor Dr. Randin Brons in this week’s “Idea Engineer”. Really makes one think.
Today I can honestly answer the question in the affirmative, but that happened through a learning curve directed/coached by professionals like Randin, and is the very reason I am comfortable today working with others.
It is far easier to coach/guide people on a path that you have walked and continue the happy trudge that is life!
If you have concerns that you may not own your life at the moment, I am free to have a discussion with. I have got special talents and skills and love the journey. It’s great to have a life that has meaning.(www.hopeserenity.ca )
Sunday, November 14, 2010
अत्तितुदे ADJUSTMENT
ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT
After a number of recent conversations and happenings, coupled with self reflection, I think the biggest change in my life over the past number of years has been an attitude adjustment.
Years ago, it was far too easy to fall into the negative.
One of my symptoms was frequently knocking others, finding the bad in them. Another was a sense of gloom that could take over the sunniest day. The gloom through me frequently into procrastination, I just couldn’t get things done unless my back was against a wall, and even then I was often late with “stuff”.
I could go on, and I know many can add to this. Today I know my problem was “attitude”.
Yes I had other issues. Safe to say I had an outward big ego coupled with inner fear and self loathing. What a dangerous combination. I created my own “Disney World” and found both mood altering substances and behaviours that would, for a short period, allow me to escape the real world and all its’ tough situations and live in my fantasy land. I could look into the future and see grandiose things happening-fame and fortune and the admiration of others coming my way. But man, truth of the matter was I did not want to deal with the real issue-me and my attitude toward life.
I have a good friend an author by the name of Paul McCabe who wrote a book of simple truths worth reading-“Feed the Good Dog”. One thing that Paul has drilled into me is a huge truth; “Life is tough”.
In years gone by, life was tough and I chose to escape to Disney World. Upon reflection, I would have to say the past decade has been as tough, maybe even tougher, yet I deal with it far differently and am an optimistic person who gets enjoyment out of nearly every day.
What happened?
With the fullness of hind sight, I can say simply that I have undergone a major change of attitude and address the causes of my problems. In doing this, I have been free of my “addictions” for an extended period of time and have a whole new set of skills in my life tool box that I can draw on.
There is an old saying; gratitude is an attitude and this is now a part of my subconscious daily living. Life remains with its difficulties but when the darkness starts up inside of me (and it does) I quickly focus on the many things I have to be grateful for. Each of us is capable of finding them if we learn how to find them! So I try to live daily with an attitude of gratitude and this has caused a major attitude adjustment in my life.
What a blessing to appreciate the good that has been bestowed on me; truly an unmerited gift but a gift I accept with thanks.
There was a process that I learned from others that brought me from a negative place and trips to “Disney World” to a place where I see sunshine just about daily. The attitude adjustment brought about with “guided growth” allows me to live in the real world and deal soberly with problems that used to baffle me.
Life at certain times remains tough, but from the tools gained from a variety of “life coaching” experiences, I live my days today with a whole new positive take on life.
If you look at life through anis, all you see is brown stuff. Today I like the place I look at life from, and it impacts on all around me. Most importantly, I like living in my own skin. This is a major positive attitude adjustment. (www.hopeserenity.ca / www.coached-to-success.com)
After a number of recent conversations and happenings, coupled with self reflection, I think the biggest change in my life over the past number of years has been an attitude adjustment.
Years ago, it was far too easy to fall into the negative.
One of my symptoms was frequently knocking others, finding the bad in them. Another was a sense of gloom that could take over the sunniest day. The gloom through me frequently into procrastination, I just couldn’t get things done unless my back was against a wall, and even then I was often late with “stuff”.
I could go on, and I know many can add to this. Today I know my problem was “attitude”.
Yes I had other issues. Safe to say I had an outward big ego coupled with inner fear and self loathing. What a dangerous combination. I created my own “Disney World” and found both mood altering substances and behaviours that would, for a short period, allow me to escape the real world and all its’ tough situations and live in my fantasy land. I could look into the future and see grandiose things happening-fame and fortune and the admiration of others coming my way. But man, truth of the matter was I did not want to deal with the real issue-me and my attitude toward life.
I have a good friend an author by the name of Paul McCabe who wrote a book of simple truths worth reading-“Feed the Good Dog”. One thing that Paul has drilled into me is a huge truth; “Life is tough”.
In years gone by, life was tough and I chose to escape to Disney World. Upon reflection, I would have to say the past decade has been as tough, maybe even tougher, yet I deal with it far differently and am an optimistic person who gets enjoyment out of nearly every day.
What happened?
With the fullness of hind sight, I can say simply that I have undergone a major change of attitude and address the causes of my problems. In doing this, I have been free of my “addictions” for an extended period of time and have a whole new set of skills in my life tool box that I can draw on.
There is an old saying; gratitude is an attitude and this is now a part of my subconscious daily living. Life remains with its difficulties but when the darkness starts up inside of me (and it does) I quickly focus on the many things I have to be grateful for. Each of us is capable of finding them if we learn how to find them! So I try to live daily with an attitude of gratitude and this has caused a major attitude adjustment in my life.
What a blessing to appreciate the good that has been bestowed on me; truly an unmerited gift but a gift I accept with thanks.
There was a process that I learned from others that brought me from a negative place and trips to “Disney World” to a place where I see sunshine just about daily. The attitude adjustment brought about with “guided growth” allows me to live in the real world and deal soberly with problems that used to baffle me.
Life at certain times remains tough, but from the tools gained from a variety of “life coaching” experiences, I live my days today with a whole new positive take on life.
If you look at life through anis, all you see is brown stuff. Today I like the place I look at life from, and it impacts on all around me. Most importantly, I like living in my own skin. This is a major positive attitude adjustment. (www.hopeserenity.ca / www.coached-to-success.com)
ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT
ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT
ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT
After a number of recent conversations and happenings, coupled with self reflection, I think the biggest change in my life over the past number of years has been an attitude adjustment.
Years ago, it was far too easy to fall into the negative.
One of my symptoms was frequently knocking others, finding the bad in them. Another was a sense of gloom that could take over the sunniest day. The gloom through me frequently into procrastination, I just couldn’t get things done unless my back was against a wall, and even then I was often late with “stuff”.
I could go on, and I know many can add to this. Today I know my problem was “attitude”.
Yes I had other issues. Safe to say I had an outward big ego coupled with inner fear and self loathing. What a dangerous combination. I created my own “Disney World” and found both mood altering substances and behaviours that would, for a short period, allow me to escape the real world and all its’ tough situations and live in my fantasy land. I could look into the future and see grandiose things happening-fame and fortune and the admiration of others coming my way. But man, truth of the matter was I did not want to deal with the real issue-me and my attitude toward life.
I have a good friend an author by the name of Paul McCabe who wrote a book of simple truths worth reading-“Feed the Good Dog”. One thing that Paul has drilled into me is a huge truth; “Life is tough”.
In years gone by, life was tough and I chose to escape to Disney World. Upon reflection, I would have to say the past decade has been as tough, maybe even tougher, yet I deal with it far differently and am an optimistic person who gets enjoyment out of nearly every day.
What happened?
With the fullness of hind sight, I can say simply that I have undergone a major change of attitude and address the causes of my problems. In doing this, I have been free of my “addictions” for an extended period of time and have a whole new set of skills in my life tool box that I can draw on.
There is an old saying; gratitude is an attitude and this is now a part of my subconscious daily living. Life remains with its difficulties but when the darkness starts up inside of me (and it does) I quickly focus on the many things I have to be grateful for. Each of us is capable of finding them if we learn how to find them! So I try to live daily with an attitude of gratitude and this has caused a major attitude adjustment in my life.
What a blessing to appreciate the good that has been bestowed on me; truly an unmerited gift but a gift I accept with thanks.
There was a process that I learned from others that brought me from a negative place and trips to “Disney World” to a place where I see sunshine just about daily. The attitude adjustment brought about with “guided growth” allows me to live in the real world and deal soberly with problems that used to baffle me.
Life at certain times remains tough, but from the tools gained from a variety of “life coaching” experiences, I live my days today with a whole new positive take on life.
If you look at life through anis, all you see is brown stuff. Today I like the place I look at life from, and it impacts on all around me. Most importantly, I like living in my own skin. This is a major positive attitude adjustment. (www.hopeserenity.ca / www.coached-to-success.com)
ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT
After a number of recent conversations and happenings, coupled with self reflection, I think the biggest change in my life over the past number of years has been an attitude adjustment.
Years ago, it was far too easy to fall into the negative.
One of my symptoms was frequently knocking others, finding the bad in them. Another was a sense of gloom that could take over the sunniest day. The gloom through me frequently into procrastination, I just couldn’t get things done unless my back was against a wall, and even then I was often late with “stuff”.
I could go on, and I know many can add to this. Today I know my problem was “attitude”.
Yes I had other issues. Safe to say I had an outward big ego coupled with inner fear and self loathing. What a dangerous combination. I created my own “Disney World” and found both mood altering substances and behaviours that would, for a short period, allow me to escape the real world and all its’ tough situations and live in my fantasy land. I could look into the future and see grandiose things happening-fame and fortune and the admiration of others coming my way. But man, truth of the matter was I did not want to deal with the real issue-me and my attitude toward life.
I have a good friend an author by the name of Paul McCabe who wrote a book of simple truths worth reading-“Feed the Good Dog”. One thing that Paul has drilled into me is a huge truth; “Life is tough”.
In years gone by, life was tough and I chose to escape to Disney World. Upon reflection, I would have to say the past decade has been as tough, maybe even tougher, yet I deal with it far differently and am an optimistic person who gets enjoyment out of nearly every day.
What happened?
With the fullness of hind sight, I can say simply that I have undergone a major change of attitude and address the causes of my problems. In doing this, I have been free of my “addictions” for an extended period of time and have a whole new set of skills in my life tool box that I can draw on.
There is an old saying; gratitude is an attitude and this is now a part of my subconscious daily living. Life remains with its difficulties but when the darkness starts up inside of me (and it does) I quickly focus on the many things I have to be grateful for. Each of us is capable of finding them if we learn how to find them! So I try to live daily with an attitude of gratitude and this has caused a major attitude adjustment in my life.
What a blessing to appreciate the good that has been bestowed on me; truly an unmerited gift but a gift I accept with thanks.
There was a process that I learned from others that brought me from a negative place and trips to “Disney World” to a place where I see sunshine just about daily. The attitude adjustment brought about with “guided growth” allows me to live in the real world and deal soberly with problems that used to baffle me.
Life at certain times remains tough, but from the tools gained from a variety of “life coaching” experiences, I live my days today with a whole new positive take on life.
If you look at life through anis, all you see is brown stuff. Today I like the place I look at life from, and it impacts on all around me. Most importantly, I like living in my own skin. This is a major positive attitude adjustment. (www.hopeserenity.ca / www.coached-to-success.com)
Thursday, November 11, 2010
A SMILE (fiction-OK love?)
A SMILE (fiction-OK love?)
A LITTLE SMILE
My wife was driving when she saw the flash of a traffic camera. She figured that her picture had been taken for exceeding the limit even though she knew that she was not speeding.
She went around the block and passed the same spot, driving even more slowly, but again the camera flashed. Now she began to think that this was quite funny, so she drove even slower as she passed the area once more, but the traffic camera again flashed. She tried a fourth and fifth time with the same results and was now laughing as the camera flashed while she rolled past at a snail's pace.
Two weeks later, she got five tickets in the mail for driving without a seat belt.
You can't fix stupid. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
A LITTLE SMILE
My wife was driving when she saw the flash of a traffic camera. She figured that her picture had been taken for exceeding the limit even though she knew that she was not speeding.
She went around the block and passed the same spot, driving even more slowly, but again the camera flashed. Now she began to think that this was quite funny, so she drove even slower as she passed the area once more, but the traffic camera again flashed. She tried a fourth and fifth time with the same results and was now laughing as the camera flashed while she rolled past at a snail's pace.
Two weeks later, she got five tickets in the mail for driving without a seat belt.
You can't fix stupid. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
ASKING FOR HELP
ASKING FOR HELP
ASKING FOR HELP
We roll into a new week, and I look forward to it! Interesting things happened last week, one in particular that reminded me that I have no control over people in my life, particularly my adult children.
While I can’t control them, I am amazed, with all the work I have done on myself, how much their actions can still hurt! But with the help of a power greater than me and a little time we do move on. The space in my head has value, and there’s no point in letting things that don’t pay rent to occupy that space.
Another great reminder, it is very difficult for others to ask for help. Some do when there back is up against a wall; others never do and generally suffer because of their pride and false ego.
I can well remember the time in my life that asking for help in many areas was a very difficult, if not impossible, task. I was one of those who whose back was forced up against a wall. I was about to lose the things that were most important to me; not material things but relationships that meant everything.
It goes without saying; I had lost a good relationship with myself many years ago.
It took a real act of courage on the part of my life partner to force me into action. I was a miserable person wallowing in self pity and remorse when I reached out for professional help.
Funny thing, when I finally swallowed my pride and checked my ego at the door, there was great help available, and in asking for it and taking action, I began to get my life back!
Try as I did, I could not fix myself and it took “help” from many others along with personal action to get things going in a positive direction.
This weekend, I was reminded by a couple of very close friends on how difficult it was to ask for help. Ironically, as I was at this very juncture of writing, the phone rang and another long time acquaintance called and reluctantly asked for help and stated that she had a real battle with her ego to ask! Things do happen in mysterious ways, and maybe the timing of your reading this blog will be just what you need at this moment.
The bottom line- if you’re feeling things closing in on you and your back is against the wall, swallow your pride, check your ego and reach out for help. It’s tough to do, it does require courage, but you will find help available and who knows, you might get to the life you truly deserve! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
ASKING FOR HELP
We roll into a new week, and I look forward to it! Interesting things happened last week, one in particular that reminded me that I have no control over people in my life, particularly my adult children.
While I can’t control them, I am amazed, with all the work I have done on myself, how much their actions can still hurt! But with the help of a power greater than me and a little time we do move on. The space in my head has value, and there’s no point in letting things that don’t pay rent to occupy that space.
Another great reminder, it is very difficult for others to ask for help. Some do when there back is up against a wall; others never do and generally suffer because of their pride and false ego.
I can well remember the time in my life that asking for help in many areas was a very difficult, if not impossible, task. I was one of those who whose back was forced up against a wall. I was about to lose the things that were most important to me; not material things but relationships that meant everything.
It goes without saying; I had lost a good relationship with myself many years ago.
It took a real act of courage on the part of my life partner to force me into action. I was a miserable person wallowing in self pity and remorse when I reached out for professional help.
Funny thing, when I finally swallowed my pride and checked my ego at the door, there was great help available, and in asking for it and taking action, I began to get my life back!
Try as I did, I could not fix myself and it took “help” from many others along with personal action to get things going in a positive direction.
This weekend, I was reminded by a couple of very close friends on how difficult it was to ask for help. Ironically, as I was at this very juncture of writing, the phone rang and another long time acquaintance called and reluctantly asked for help and stated that she had a real battle with her ego to ask! Things do happen in mysterious ways, and maybe the timing of your reading this blog will be just what you need at this moment.
The bottom line- if you’re feeling things closing in on you and your back is against the wall, swallow your pride, check your ego and reach out for help. It’s tough to do, it does require courage, but you will find help available and who knows, you might get to the life you truly deserve! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
अस्किंग फॉर हेल्प?
ASKING FOR HELP
We roll into a new week, and I look forward to it! Interesting things happened last week, one in particular that reminded me that I have no control over people in my life, particularly my adult children.
While I can’t control them, I am amazed, with all the work I have done on myself, how much their actions can still hurt! But with the help of a power greater than me and a little time we do move on. The space in my head has value, and there’s no point in letting things that don’t pay rent to occupy that space.
Another great reminder, it is very difficult for others to ask for help. Some do when there back is up against a wall; others never do and generally suffer because of their pride and false ego.
I can well remember the time in my life that asking for help in many areas was a very difficult, if not impossible, task. I was one of those who whose back was forced up against a wall. I was about to lose the things that were most important to me; not material things but relationships that meant everything.
It goes without saying; I had lost a good relationship with myself many years ago.
It took a real act of courage on the part of my life partner to force me into action. I was a miserable person wallowing in self pity and remorse when I reached out for professional help.
Funny thing, when I finally swallowed my pride and checked my ego at the door, there was great help available, and in asking for it and taking action, I began to get my life back!
Try as I did, I could not fix myself and it took “help” from many others along with personal action to get things going in a positive direction.
This weekend, I was reminded by a couple of very close friends on how difficult it was to ask for help. Ironically, as I was at this very juncture of writing, the phone rang and another long time acquaintance called and reluctantly asked for help and stated that she had a real battle with her ego to ask! Things do happen in mysterious ways, and maybe the timing of your reading this blog will be just what you need at this moment.
The bottom line- if you’re feeling things closing in on you and your back is against the wall, swallow your pride, check your ego and reach out for help. It’s tough to do, it does require courage, but you will find help available and who knows, you might get to the life you truly deserve! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
We roll into a new week, and I look forward to it! Interesting things happened last week, one in particular that reminded me that I have no control over people in my life, particularly my adult children.
While I can’t control them, I am amazed, with all the work I have done on myself, how much their actions can still hurt! But with the help of a power greater than me and a little time we do move on. The space in my head has value, and there’s no point in letting things that don’t pay rent to occupy that space.
Another great reminder, it is very difficult for others to ask for help. Some do when there back is up against a wall; others never do and generally suffer because of their pride and false ego.
I can well remember the time in my life that asking for help in many areas was a very difficult, if not impossible, task. I was one of those who whose back was forced up against a wall. I was about to lose the things that were most important to me; not material things but relationships that meant everything.
It goes without saying; I had lost a good relationship with myself many years ago.
It took a real act of courage on the part of my life partner to force me into action. I was a miserable person wallowing in self pity and remorse when I reached out for professional help.
Funny thing, when I finally swallowed my pride and checked my ego at the door, there was great help available, and in asking for it and taking action, I began to get my life back!
Try as I did, I could not fix myself and it took “help” from many others along with personal action to get things going in a positive direction.
This weekend, I was reminded by a couple of very close friends on how difficult it was to ask for help. Ironically, as I was at this very juncture of writing, the phone rang and another long time acquaintance called and reluctantly asked for help and stated that she had a real battle with her ego to ask! Things do happen in mysterious ways, and maybe the timing of your reading this blog will be just what you need at this moment.
The bottom line- if you’re feeling things closing in on you and your back is against the wall, swallow your pride, check your ego and reach out for help. It’s tough to do, it does require courage, but you will find help available and who knows, you might get to the life you truly deserve! (www.hopeserenity.ca)
Monday, November 8, 2010
यू'रे बेत्टर थान यू थिंक!
YOU’RE BETTER THAN YOU THINK!
How many of us have truly healthy self-esteem (not big egos) and appreciate how good we really are?
Not many, most of us underestimate our real potential.
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
We are wonderful, capable human beings worthy of love and happiness. We all have a gift to give the world that can't be duplicated. No one else is exactly like us; we are each unique. Hard to believe?
The problem is, we don't believe it. Most of us are used to thinking about all our negative qualities and become expert at putting ourselves down. We have a hard time believing and accepting our own goodness and gifts. Think about how you respond when given a compliment!
When we have a negative attitude, only one person can change it - us. We have the power to choose to change our thinking - if we want to. It takes a courageous person to risk getting positive and hopeful.
I had to reach out and get coaching help to make the changes I needed to make in my life and in my case this meant giving up chemical and behavioural addictions. It was tough, but then life is tough! It has been with it.
Today I can appreciate my goodness and accept love humbly. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
How many of us have truly healthy self-esteem (not big egos) and appreciate how good we really are?
Not many, most of us underestimate our real potential.
We are better than we know. If we can be made to see it, perhaps for the rest of our lives, we will be unwilling to settle for less.
-- Anonymous
We are wonderful, capable human beings worthy of love and happiness. We all have a gift to give the world that can't be duplicated. No one else is exactly like us; we are each unique. Hard to believe?
The problem is, we don't believe it. Most of us are used to thinking about all our negative qualities and become expert at putting ourselves down. We have a hard time believing and accepting our own goodness and gifts. Think about how you respond when given a compliment!
When we have a negative attitude, only one person can change it - us. We have the power to choose to change our thinking - if we want to. It takes a courageous person to risk getting positive and hopeful.
I had to reach out and get coaching help to make the changes I needed to make in my life and in my case this meant giving up chemical and behavioural addictions. It was tough, but then life is tough! It has been with it.
Today I can appreciate my goodness and accept love humbly. (www.hopeserenity.ca)
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